Caring for Tiffany

-
 


Hmmmmmm.... why do I feel as if I need permission to take a break, do a little less, ask for help or ask for an exception? I have always been the one to celebrate at any opportunity to care for myself when it is recommended by someone I know is looking out for my best interests. 


If only I were able to do that more consistently on my own things would be better. I think I will challenge myself to a few things I will commit to doing throughout the week that will help me facilitate much needed time to reflect, release and relax. A few of my all time favs are listed below. Feel free to share some of yours. 

  • Hot bath with rose petals and Candles 
  • Read Chapters 8 and 9 12 years a Slave. (I Have Been reading this book for 2 years) 
  • Start to draw a picture I found on a Facebook Group
  • Vlog an adventure as I go drop off recycling 
  • Make an omelette (now this should be fun) 
These are all things that facilitate a creative passion and help me relax and reflect. I am totally looking forward to it!! 

Maybe my vlog next week will discuss how things went and what if anything I learned. Happy Tuesday folks! 

I love myself

-Tiffany 

Comments

  1. KendylJune 16, 2020 at 6:56 AM

    Tiffany, you are not alone in feeling you need permission to slow down. I think this boils down to compassion. So many of us struggle with self-compassion. We say things to ourselves and hold ourselves to standards that we would never inflict on others. When I start to recognize these feelings in myself, I try to step back and approach the situation as if I was advising a friend. If it was a situation where I would tell a buddy to relax and take a break, I try to grant myself that same grace.

    A few relaxation techniques I have been trying to work into my daily life are meditation and gratitude journaling. At first, these felt like additional chores (and they still do some days), but it makes a noticeable difference for me in helping me feel more centered.

    I wish you luck on your journey to reflect and relax!!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Earth Care and RestorationJune 18, 2020 at 5:27 AM

      Kendyl, Thanks so much for sharing this with me. Yes I totally agree. I never hold others to the standards I inflict on myself.

      Delete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

The perfect blog post

-
The perfect blog post does not exist. I’m stuck. I’m trying to figure out how to make my blog posts interesting, dynamic, and educational. Seems to me I’d rather make videos to share my experiences in this class. I just finish reading the assignments for this week and I am interested in seeing what new things I will learn. I recently had a conversation with an old classmate and he told me I was not technologically inclined. To that my response was, “I’m just traditional”. I suppose this blog is just about me exploring thoughts pertaining to how this class will shape my daily functioning and my use of tools to assist me in personal goals. I also need to up my game. You know it seems that it takes me a little longer to explore new things when my intent is to learn and master what I’ve learned. So typically that ends up leaving me a little mentally drained. However, I’m looking to allow this Experience to be fun and exciting. For now, signing off. Tiffany
Read more

What Does your Silence Mean ?

-
Image
So, as an African American female employed at a PWA (predominately white agency) there is a loud silence that I simply cannot ignore. Daily I wonder, “Do you see me?“ “Is the pain I experience noticeable to you in any way?” “Is there any concern that maybe I am in emotional distress?” Then there is this Private rehearsal, “So if they ask, what am I going to say? How do I say it? What do I want them to do differently ? Am I being objective? “ Each day I have meetings online with colleagues that can see my face and I wonder are they aware or on any level Or conscious that possibly I am hurting. The silence is so confusing. Is it that your are uncomfortable? Are you unaware? I want you to know that I am hurting.  I am sad that I have to consider where I am going, before I go, and what I am wearing. I am concerned about the black men in my life that are fearful of their own lives. I was concerned about going to the office to print reports that I need to read be...
Read more

Tears Speak For Me

-
Image
Today, I finally cried. After years of seeing black men murdered I finally cried. Why? Today, I felt justified. I felt like I had permission to feel what I have been experiencing. My classmates gave me the permission to sit in the emotions of Fear Uncertainty Discomfort Weariness Concern. I realized today I never stopped to ask my brothers, my dad, cousins or my nephew how they were doing. I have been afraid. I have been afraid to hear them tell me their pain, fear, and  rage. I have been afraid the truth of their reality would only confirm how powerless I am, how powerless we are regarding how people view us. I cried because I really had no words to express what my soul was experiencing. I felt for my classmates. Perhaps, many of us are sitting in the same seats of uncertainty and we are seeking together to understand. I had two conversations with friends this week. One cried. Another told me they cried because they were so hurt. Although I understood what they w...
Read more